pantshater24
I hate to hear about your loss and I wish there was more i could say. I know the time ahead will be hard for you and your sister but i would like to say i will be praying for you and your sister and may God bless you.

Wow. I'm sorry to hear that man. Thats horrible. Hope you get the guardianship and everything turns out well. God bless you.

I will pray for you. God bless.

pantshater24 I'm really sorry

I am genuinely sorry to hear about your loss, Pantshater. My deepest sympathies to you and your sister.

As for my own situation, I flew home and saw my Dad last week.

And since my last visit, Dad's been falling a lot.

Basically, the cancer has eaten away his muscle mass, so that simple things, such as walking or even sitting up, are becoming more difficult. Dad's been trying to eat, but the cancer eats the food for him, so basically, he's suffering the first effects of starvation.

If they can't get this under control in the next 2-3 weeks, the doctors are going to stop chemo and just let nature run its course.

This morning, fortunately, my best friend paid my Dad a visit. He and my Dad's best friend were loading him into the car, when Dad fell again.

But my friend caught him before he did. Thank everything for miracles.

Dad's been also getting incoherent. He's not getting enough oxygen to his system, so they put him on oxygen as of today.

It's not looking good. Things are going downhill quickly, and I'm going out again in a week. My work has been awesome about this, and very understanding. I've been told to just do what I need to do, and they'll work with me.

I want to hope for him visiting Vegas, or us seeing Indiana Jones or doing a family train trip in Colorado. Now, I don't know how realistic those goals are anymore. It's been a steep decline, and every day is getting worse instead of better. It's a miserable feeling to just sit and be utterly helpless no matter where I am, no matter what I do.

thanks for keeping us up to date

be strong

It's just frustrating to see my Dad's health decline like this. He just deserves a better quality of life than to have this hit him so hard, so fast.

When I was out there a week ago, he seemed fine enough, but I could see him getting a little unsteady by the end of the visit. And it just continued on from there.

I'm going back next Friday. Hopefully, he'll get some small recovery.

I'm really sorry to hear. This I am praying for you and your family.

I know that going to see the new Indiana Jones seems trivial… but I think you should make it a goal for him to try reach and live to see, I don't know if there's something about having something to shoot for that helps to prolong the will to live and even being able to carry on living, but I think you should encourage him to see it… something positive to look forward to in a life of increasing despair.

And don't stop there, find other goals to reach… other things to live long enough to see. Make his final days, no matter how long they are things to enjoy, cherish and remember fondly even after the inevitable has been and gone.

Kingpin's right. Spend as much time as possible. I remember when my cat died. I was busy a lot, and the only real time I spent with him was when I took him to the hospital. I left to go to taekwondo, and they said they'll treat him as best they can. 10 minutes later, I got pulled out of the class by my dad, and who told me he just died.